Popular notions go that gambling create bad tempers in gamblers. Movies often picture them in brawls with other people, especially their spouses. Does gambling really stimulate bad temper in gamblers? If so, how do we stop gambling from eating up the mood of gamblers?
The culprit really is not gambling per se but how people take winning and losing in gambling. It’s mishandling stress. Anybody in any activity who fails to handle stress properly will end up being bad tempered. Even saints, being non-gamblers, would explode with bad temper if they let stress and work pressure get the better of them. The only consideration is that, gambling causes stress more than any other activity. Why? Here are some facts:
Card game gamblers sit all day without much physical activity. Others standing up also stress out and strain the legs and feet. Dormancy plus gambling distress can be a health time bomb. Gambling stress can build up in the nervous system and trigger a regular hot temperament. This can manifest even in non-gambling situations. Once the bad temper becomes habitual due to improper gambling stress coping, the notion is enforced—that gambling creates bad temper in gamblers.
The inordinate drive to win both elicits stress in wanting to win and in avoiding losing. Gambling is simple winning or losing, so each time gambling sessions are going, there’s a continuous gambling stress stimulated by this gambling drive.
So what should gamblers do to get rid of bad tempers? Simple tips are below:
Keep gambling as a hobby, not a vice. Enjoy what it results in, whether a win or a lost, and do not desperately desire to win. Winning is strategy and chance. It doesn’t rely on one’s desperation to win. Desperate or not, if one wins, one wins. As long as one maintains an attitude of neither wanting to win or to lose, gambling stress levels will be at normal range.
Losing in gambling is bad but feeling bad about it won’t turn it into a win. Psychologists have been saying for years now that it is healthy to laugh at one’s own mistakes and foibles—losing included. Sometimes it’s hard to fight the temptation to hate the guy who’s making you lose. This is the number one stressor. The best defense against stress (and malice) is to laugh at one’s losing or bring a book of jokes along and read a line or two each losing time. When done with the book it’s quitting time.
Gambling and stress concoct bad temper. But gambling with proper stress coping is a good hobby.